The current trend
** I would like to dedicate this post to some of my friends, they'd probably know themselves if they read the post.
This is something I've been wanting to blog about for some time now. By trend, I don't mean fashion trends like most of you would think; I mean trends like in economics, the direction in which things tend to move. More specifically, I'm talking about the correlation between friends and relationships, and how each is affecting the other. From an Emirati's point of view of course.
In the near past, if you think about our parents' generations, you wouldn't have seen many relationships . You'd see some, but the numbers wouldn't even be close to what they are now. If you haven't realized what kind of relationships I'm taking about yet, I'm talking about love or romantic relationships or whatever you may call them. If you spend time with your parents, you would notice that they are still in contact with some old friends of theirs from university or even school. I don't think many people nowadays have as strong a relationship with their friends as their parents did that would stay with them forever. Friends in our generation are not the same as friends in the generation before us, at least here where we're from.
Friendships are mostly superficial these days. You could ask a person who their closest friend is, and they would tell you they have none. When you point at the huge crowd of people on the other side of the room they'd say, "oh, they're just the people I hang out with." So apparently, people only have friends now so they don't look like losers and so they can go out and have fun. They don't share that special bond friends are supposed to share. I am not saying that all people are like this, I'm just saying that many of them are, for various reasons some of which might be legitimate.
This leads to people feeling lonely, and sometimes maybe worthless. They try to fill this need for real friends through love. Through the search for love they expect to find someone they get so close to to replace the void they feel. Others just toy around with people to give themselves the false feelings of superiority and completeness. Love can never really replace friendships, they could only perhaps compliment them.
A person who has real friends can do just fine with or without love. A person who doesn't is forced to search for something which to fill this void of having friends; everyone deals with this in their own way, but the majority search for love. The person is not always to blame for feeling lonely, the whole community is blamed. Our community is filled with loads of backstabbers and people who are double faced that it is sometimes extremely hard to find someone to trust. Why do we all, or many of us, act this way?
Why does everyone only care about themselves? Friendships are supposed to be about affection, care, and respect to one another, not about simply having people to hang out with. Of course, there is nothing wrong with sitting with a group of people you're not really close with, but to do that all the time? You may say that there are simply no friends anymore and that you've either got this option or you'd end up having no friends at all, but I don't think thats true. There are many friends around, but you just have to take the time and effort to find them.
This is something I've been wanting to blog about for some time now. By trend, I don't mean fashion trends like most of you would think; I mean trends like in economics, the direction in which things tend to move. More specifically, I'm talking about the correlation between friends and relationships, and how each is affecting the other. From an Emirati's point of view of course.
In the near past, if you think about our parents' generations, you wouldn't have seen many relationships . You'd see some, but the numbers wouldn't even be close to what they are now. If you haven't realized what kind of relationships I'm taking about yet, I'm talking about love or romantic relationships or whatever you may call them. If you spend time with your parents, you would notice that they are still in contact with some old friends of theirs from university or even school. I don't think many people nowadays have as strong a relationship with their friends as their parents did that would stay with them forever. Friends in our generation are not the same as friends in the generation before us, at least here where we're from.
Friendships are mostly superficial these days. You could ask a person who their closest friend is, and they would tell you they have none. When you point at the huge crowd of people on the other side of the room they'd say, "oh, they're just the people I hang out with." So apparently, people only have friends now so they don't look like losers and so they can go out and have fun. They don't share that special bond friends are supposed to share. I am not saying that all people are like this, I'm just saying that many of them are, for various reasons some of which might be legitimate.
This leads to people feeling lonely, and sometimes maybe worthless. They try to fill this need for real friends through love. Through the search for love they expect to find someone they get so close to to replace the void they feel. Others just toy around with people to give themselves the false feelings of superiority and completeness. Love can never really replace friendships, they could only perhaps compliment them.
A person who has real friends can do just fine with or without love. A person who doesn't is forced to search for something which to fill this void of having friends; everyone deals with this in their own way, but the majority search for love. The person is not always to blame for feeling lonely, the whole community is blamed. Our community is filled with loads of backstabbers and people who are double faced that it is sometimes extremely hard to find someone to trust. Why do we all, or many of us, act this way?
Why does everyone only care about themselves? Friendships are supposed to be about affection, care, and respect to one another, not about simply having people to hang out with. Of course, there is nothing wrong with sitting with a group of people you're not really close with, but to do that all the time? You may say that there are simply no friends anymore and that you've either got this option or you'd end up having no friends at all, but I don't think thats true. There are many friends around, but you just have to take the time and effort to find them.
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